This means that love between a male to female and female to male
crossdreamer would actually be like transcending the traditional gender roles,
while at the same time reaffirming them.
I am sorry if I sound too philosophically obtruse here, but she
has made a very important point: We need the contrasts between feminine and
masculine, yin and yang, the moon and the sun, earth and sky in order to make
sense of our own multifaceted personalities. These contrasts help us
navigate the world and our own feelings.
The problem is that since these contrasts have been fixated into dogmas by
culture, we cannot make her leap into the sky and look at these dynamics from
above. We are not allowed to. Even if we perfectly well know that men can be
nurturing, and that many of the women in our lives have been much stronger than
the men, we cannot use that insight to forgive ourselves: i.e. that it is OK
for a man to cuddle and for a woman to f**k her sweet guy senseless.
I never seize to be amazed at how much pain our own stupidity causes us. We
are not only the prisoners. We are the prison guards.
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